Rebuilding After The Storm
I’m writing this as I sit in a coffee shop at Hamilton Island on the beautiful Whitsundays. It has been four weeks since cyclone Debbie showed us how much power and strength she had.
As we drive around the island on the buggy, the tropical, lush gardens that made us instantly feel we were on a tropical island, have been stripped bare. We could see units and houses with roofs off, timber panels up where glass balconies and windows used to be.
The marina is a similar sight. Once filled with luxuries, sparkling boats motoring in and out, is now half full. So many have limped back to Brisbane or the Gold Coast to start their repair work. Not a boat was left unscathed from the fury of Debbie. It amazes me how a 40 tonne boat could be moved and smashed onto rocks and shattered.
It must have been terrifying for the people who were on the island at the time. To hear the deafening gusts of wind swirl around their buildings in the darkness of the night, not knowing what they were going to wake up to. Trees that were hundreds of years old, that once stood tall and proud, ripped from their roots, now destroyed from Debbie’s rage.
This is what living with a malignant narcissist can be like, not knowing what you are going to wake up to the next morning or when the next storm will hit. It doesn’t matter how strong you are, how smart you are, or how long you have been around. Their on a mission to destroy lives and leave as much destruction as they possibly can.
Debbie came from one direction slammed into the island, then turned around and struck again. The Narc does the same, but with malicious intent. They sit and cunningly scheme their attack, their intention is to smash you to pieces, or at the very least, leave their targets limping away from them as quickly as they physically can. If you are their focus, they will go to extreme lengths to destroy you. Hell has no fury as a narcissist’s scorn.
They will throw everything at you that their evil, sick mind can think up to ensure their targets won’t be able to rebuild their lives, but they under estimate the shear strength of the human spirit. It is not until we are put under pressure or we think we may not make it through the storm, that our determination to survive truly shines through.
Always remember that you are so much stronger and smarter than the narcissist is. They may knock you down, but you will get up and like Hamilton Island, you will come back, but better than you ever where before.