The Secrets to Inner Peace
What does having inner peace mean to you? How can we get it or maintain it, if we are not really sure that we know when we’ve got it?
We don’t all need to cross our legs and chant while sitting on top of a mountain wearing our yoga pants. It is different things to different people.
The Oxford Dictionary states the meaning of peace as:-
- Freedom from disturbance, tranquillity, calm, restfulness, peace and quiet, stillness
- A state or period in which there is no war or a war has ended, harmony and accord
Being at ‘peace’ is considered to be a healthy state to be in and where we perform at our optimal level of performance. No one is going to argue with that! Then why is it something we struggle to get just a little bit of some days?
Because we are human and after all, life is full of ups and downs whether we like it or not. With the curve balls life throws at as we then get the opposite of peace popping up. This unpleasant feeling called stress and anxiety. We become discontented, feel sad, unhappy or dissatisfied.
So, there are two types of peace we experience. That of inner peace which we can control and that of outer peace, our surroundings, which we often can’t control. Let’s look at how we can optimise gaining peace in both areas of our life because both are extremely important.
When we are in control in these areas we have a high sense of confidence and self-esteem.
Internal – Peace within ourselves: –
- Work out what you do that makes you feel happy and at peace. It could be going for a walk, sitting with a cup of tea watching the sunrise, reading a book or sitting with your loved ones. It doesn’t have to cost money or take up a lot of your time.
- How do you recognise you are not feeling calm and are getting rattled? It could be a feeling in your stomach or your chest or thoughts are running through your head. Whatever it is, stop, freeze and take a breath.
- What are you going to tell yourself? What action can you do at this point of time? Maybe get up and make a cup of tea, get a glass of water or walk around the block. Clear your head, look at a photo that makes you happy or think of that holiday you are taking. It could be thinking about your beautiful children or maybe your pet dog!
External – Our environment: –
- We are often not in control of our environment, take your work place as an example. Your boss may have come to work in a foul mood and is taking it out on everybody he sees. We can’t control his actions, but we can control out thoughts. Again, practice a few of the tips in point three above.
- If it is in your home, have your own time out spot. Let your partner and children know beforehand, that when you need some quiet time, or chill out time that this is where you are going to go. They then know you need some space and that you are not mad with them and that they are not in trouble. Well you might be angry with them, but you have inoculated them upfront. Also let them know how much time you need say 5-10 minutes. You might just need to sit in there and have a glass of wine or just think about nothing, listen to music, take a nap, whatever works for you.
- If your partner is the main source of your continual distress, ask yourself ‘how long has this been going on for?” “Can it be fixed?” “What can both of you do to improve the situation?” If you know deep in your heart that the situation will never improve, it is time to start making plans to leave. If you are in a continual state of distress in your home environment, stress, anxiety and sadness will always be your shadow. Open the door and let the light in and move forward.
Your brain and soul need a peaceful environment to survive and thrive, so be kind to yourself. Sometimes we have to put ourselves first if we are to take care of others.