The Day You Finally Realise Your Boss Is A Narcissist
17th May, 2014
Really loving my new job. My new boss Sam is great and always gives me time when I need to ask him questions. He has told me on several occasions how much better I am performing than the others on the team and has told me things about them that he doesn’t like. He must trust me to tell me all this stuff.
5th August, 2014
I guess it doesn’t really worry me that I have to work such long hours and hardly get to see my partner John. We are not as social as we used to be and John gets so annoyed at times and says he feels my work is more important than him.
23rd December, 2014
I’m so proud of how well I am doing in sales, even though Sam likes to take all the credit for it. I’ve noticed that he likes to be the one in the limelight all the time and needs constant praise. I find this behaviour strange for a grown man. Looking forward to my Christmas break and spending time with family and friends.
10th April, 2015
It’s been nearly a year since I have been in this job and working for Sam. I am so exhausted all the time and have become disillusioned about the company and Sam. I’ve seen him so many times totally degrade and disparage team members in meetings all because of that enormous ego and hunger for power.
30th August, 2015
Wow! What a day. In our meeting today, I suggested a few ideas on how we could approach a new client. Sam kept rolling his eyes and then got really angry when someone else said what a great idea. He turned and lashed out at them and I felt so sorry for the other guy. Sam made him look so small and I could see other team members cringe.
I’ve learnt it is not beneficial to say anything in meetings anymore. Just shut up, listen and agree with Sam and stay under the radar. He will ask team members for feedback but in reality, doesn’t actually want it. I feel he would actually prefer to surround himself with yes people who will always just agree with him. Sam also likes to threaten to take people to court and seems to get off on it.
15th January, 2016
We lost a big client today and we got to see Sam’s temper again. Of course it was the teams fault. Sam never takes responsibility for anything. I’ve seen so many good people leave the company due to his lack of communication skills. I don’t think he will ever change. Actually I think he is getting worse.
19th June, 2016
Well I’ve been working with Sam for two years now and I’ve decided to resign. I’ve come to the realization that Sam will never allow people to do as well as him or better. He actually resents people doing better than him and I don’t think I will ever reach my full potential with him as my boss. He is extremely insecure and the more someone succeeds it brings out his low self-esteem. The more power and control he has, the worse he becomes.
I’ve seen him play mind games of uncovering people’s insecurities and fears, then he digs until he finds out their weaknesses and when he no longer has a use for them, he turns on them and uses their perceived weaknesses against them. He likes to play mind games with people and fuck with their head. Who does that?
He talks behind peoples back and uses his authority to abuse and humiliate people. It is soul destroying. He is actually a bully disguised in a suit.
5th July, 2016
An ex co-worker rang me today. It was so good to hear from her. It seems like I am getting blamed for everything that ever went wrong in the company. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised though as he did this to everyone who left. Again Sam cannot take responsibility and he loves to play the victim.
I am so glad I finally listened to my awareness and left. I can now see Sam is in fact, a narcissist and it now makes sense why I was feeling so unhappy. Now I am free, I know my life is going to start getting a whole lot better.