The Virtuous Woman
In my mid 40’s, I had a turning point in my life. I had left my malignant narcissist husband, had no money, no car and thought ‘What the hell do I do now?’
But what a wonderful moment in hindsight that was. I had nothing, so I had nothing to lose. I was able to design and create the life I had always wanted. I had my health, I could work. Sometimes having nothing to lose can be a blessing.
I started with writing down everything I didn’t want in my life which made it so much easier to work out what I did want. I have always been a big believer in setting goals and dreaming big. I have had goal books since I was in my twenties. I am extremely visual, so having pictures really helped me focus and kept me on track.
For me it was about having self-worth, feeling empowered, self-respect, integrity, being true to my ethic and values, telling myself that I am a strong, loving woman, I am honest, I am worthy, I am a good person, I’m proud of you, I am free, I am safe, I am confident, I am loved, you’ve got this girl and what the hell are you waiting for.
I got asked the other day, did I find it hard to trust in a partner again. I said “It was more about me trusting me again, to listen to my gut feel, my intuition more than trusting others”.
I no longer worry about what other people think. Andy Rooney once said” A woman over 50 will not lay next to you in bed and ask ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think”.
I exercise my body and mind on a regular basis and feel confident I will achieve my goals. The Australia Bureau of Statistics in 2014 showed, 28% of women business owners were aged 55 years and over. Here’s to following your passion. As Gabriel Garcia Marquez said “It is not that people stop pursuing their dreams because they grow old. They grow old because they stop pursuing their dreams”. Or the very funny Mae West “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough”.
Cheers to all the virtuous women out there.